Of all the goals I and you pursue, there is one single goal we should be after - Happiness.
In any situation ask yourself:
1. Am I happy now?
(This is for happiness awareness to the self)
2. Irrespective of the response "what can I be happy about now"
After practising repeatedly, the question can be simplified to "what can I be happy about right now?"
I have some beginners luck and it works for me. I am happy blogging now. Several related thoughts are unfolding.
1. By being aware I can be happy, I am actually happy
2. I figured out what to focus on. Otherwise, mind drifts towards the negative streams of life
3. I figured out that I can create additional and new meanings to the current situation