Friday, January 14, 2011

The effect of media on your day

We all have been groomed right from school days on the newspaper reading habits. The intention then was to stay current on the current events, general knowledge. The newspapers of the old good days delivered a holistic news and there were popular columnists.

Times have evolved and there is so much negativity on our media. We are exposed to so much news on terrorism, corruption, violence, abuse and what not. It does not mean those days were golden days that our grand parents enjoyed every single day. Our media has new technology, and more competition. The crime reporting has been dominating and some how we became glued to the news channels and news papers on a daily basis and keeping ourselves 'very current'.  The 'breaking news' are not really declaring any great news for a common man but an interim on the current negative incident.  I recall how Headlines Today channel took Sania Factor as a news theme and analyzed about her personal side. That was crazy!

There were days, I used to look for Times of India by 6 am and insisted the newspaper guy to deliver on time. Then I 'experimented' different newspapers like Deccan Herald, DNA in between. But the newspaper boy comes just before I leave to office - and I am thankful for him. Because I donot get to read a newspaper on the morning, because I do not give myself time in the morning, I am not polluting my mind. If I have to read, I read after coming back from office. Bangalore Mirror which is supposed to expose "the other side of Bangalore" wrote a cover story on Police Commissioner shaving his head on account of his friend's death. There are subject matter experts in the news media, but as they 'Bad News Sells' - most of them are delivering bad news.

The news on the media, the news that the media highlights as effect on our everyday psychology. I do not mean to hide our faces from reality. The emphasis can be on positivity. Positivity breeds positivity.

I tried practising for a week, and got out of my habit of grabbing the newspaper with love.

Thursday, January 6, 2011

Rules that rule our mind

I am driven by my own set of rules. You are driven by your own set of rules.  Every one of us have plenty and plenty of rules that drive us crazy, or fun loving, or contributing or caring, or happy throughout our life.  We did not consciously framed those rules and expect everyone to adhere to those rules.

A rule is our own definition of 'what has to happen in order for us to feel good'.  You are expecting your mom to serve the food in certain way. Thats one of your rules. If that is violated, you get annoyed, feel unloved, or feel rejected unconsciously.

You expect someone to smile at you when you say Good Morning.  They dont do always. And you get upset. Your rule is violated. We end up creating too many rules and end up ourselves unhappy.

The ultimate truth is that nothing has to happen in order for you to feel good. We need not any reason to be very happy.

Next time, if you are reacting violently to the situations at home or office, or emotionally disturbed for every event that happens, look at what the rule is.

Change the rule and define it in such a way that you always win.

For example, one great rule is "Any time I could smile, Any time I meet people and have fun, Any time I could contribute, Any time I could speak kind words, Any time I create something new, Any time I eat and sleep well for my health, Any time I could reach out to my old friends, Any time......-  I feel great and happy".

Define more rules that will always put you in an empowering mode. "Anytime I wake up and find myself alive, I find more day to make a difference". "Anytime I read a book, I am learning something new".

What does your rule book say?

Sunday, January 2, 2011

மன்மதன் அம்பு

மன்மதன் அம்பு
மன் - மன்னார் (கமல்)

மதன் - மதன கோபால் (மாதவன்)

அம்பு - அம்புசாக்ஷி (த்ரிஷா)

இந்த மூன்றும் சேர்ந்து மன்மதன் அம்பு ஆனது. த்ரிஷா மாதவன் காதலர்கள். அவர்கள் இடையே ஊடல். மாதவன் கமலை உளவானாக நியமித்து த்ரிஷாவை கண்காணிக்க செய்கிறார். முதல் பாதியிலையே படம் முடிந்து விடுகிறது. காமெடி என்ற பெயரில் அறுவை.

நிறை என்று சொன்னால் -

* த்ரிஷாவின் யதார்த்தமான நடிப்பு

* ஐரோப்பா சுற்றுபயணம்

* நீலவானம் பாடல்

* சின்ன சின்ன சுவாரசியங்கள்

குறை என்று சொன்னால் -

* கதை என்று ஒன்று இல்லை

* லாஜிக் இல்லை என்றாலும் பரவாயில்லை. ஒரே நாடகத் தனம்.

* மன்னார், குருப் என்று ஒட்டாத பெயர்கள்

* கழுத்தில் ரத்தம் வராத குறை தான்.

வழக்கம் போல கே எஸ் ரவிக்குமார், ஒரு காட்சியில் தலை காட்டி விடுகிறார். தேவி பிரசாத் தனது பாடலில் பெயரை அறிவித்து கொள்கிறார். கமல் தனக்கு தெரிந்த எல்லாவற்றையும் ஒரே படத்தில் சொல்ல துடிக்கிறார். விஜய் டிவியில் வந்த பேட்டிகள் அத்தனை ஈர்ப்பாக இருந்தன. த்ரிஷா, மாதவன் - திறமையுள்ள நடிகர்கள். வீணடித்து விட்டார்கள். சங்கீதா, குருப் கதாபாத்திரங்கள் ஒரு மாதிரி எரிச்சல் உண்டு பண்ணுகின்றன. த்ரிஷா கவிதை படித்து இருக்க வேண்டாம். படம் நெடுக தண்ணி, பாத்ரூம் என்று நகைச்சுவை (!) அம்சங்கள். எந்த அடிப்படையில் ஆனந்த விகடன் 40 மதிப்பெண் கொடுத்ததென்று தெரியவில்லை. நான் 30 மதிப்பெண் கொடுப்பேன்.

இந்த மாதிரி படம் எடுத்தால் அப்புறம் எப்படி திரை அரங்குக்கு வந்து பார்க்க சொல்கிறார்கள்?

படம் முடித்து விட்டு INOX வளாகத்தில் உள்ள "மயிலை மசாலா"-வில் மதிய உணவு முடித்தோம்.

மயிலை மசாலா-வில் காரம் அதிகம்

மன்மதன் அம்புவில் சாரம் குறைவு

The innocent sales boys

I had been to a mall today; noticed busy sales men and sales women all around - right from car parking through premier stores.

I treat them with utmost regard when they approach me or when I approach them. 

Some are good looking; some look learned;

Some interact well; some bluff;

Some are knowledgeable; some are not.

I used to wonder, for their age, if they had got the right standard of education, they would have been in a reputed job.

Last week, I met a girl in MK Ahmed Stores (Dollars Layout) who was sitting on the floor because she was standing since morning. Other girl was weeping over some internal issue with her other peers.

Their family background is not that great most of the times; we can assume so - they may not be doing this job for name sake. They could be the bread winners of their families.

Happen to watch Angadi Theru movie today in the TV.  Some of the story bits could have been exaggerated, but many things could have been true. But I did not have the courage to watch the movie!

What these workers grow to? What kind of fortune will they make?

I think the very basic thing we can do is respect them and help them where possible

Saturday, January 1, 2011

Happy New Year - 2011

Wishes to all my dear ones a happy new year 2011.  The whole world is charged up to enter 2011. Let this new year bring in new, exciting things in everybody's lives.